I’m falling in love with you

An alternate perspective


That look on his face said it all. The deep yearning eyes, the soft caressing hands, the nervous vulnerable smile…

I could see what was coming.

This gorgeous man, the one who gave me goosebumps every time my phone rang, he was sharing how he was falling in love with me.

My heart was racing in delight, swooning and dancing with excitement. My imagination was already scripting a wondrous daydream of the two of us.

The more he talked about how he was falling in love for me, the bigger my smile became. Brimming with passion, he shared how his heart no longer belonged to him but was mine to cherish forever, to give love and happiness for the rest of our lives.

Wait! What?


He seemed confused. Surely, he was promising nothing wrong. He was devotedly saying that his heart was completely mine now, his happiness and desires were entwined with mine forever.

And that’s very endearing and incredibly romantic. But No. No.

I love you too and I want to be with you, truly, madly, and, deeply. But there’s a difference.

I love you now and I will love you forever. I’ll support you in whatever you want to do. I’ll wish you well and care for you even when we fight. Each day, every day, I’ll try to live an amazingly beautiful life with you.


But, I don’t want to be your ultimate pillar.

I don’t want to live your life for you. I want to be busy living mine.

I want a best friend for life, the sorts where you banter over stuff but you stay who you want to be, where you know that you’ve got each other’s back. I want you to strive for your dreams even if I’m not on board.

And heavenly please, I want you to hold onto the power to your blessedness, because that’s not mine and because I will never be able to handle it for you.

How about we both promise very simply to hold our own space, and be best friends instead? This statement doesn’t have the exuberant flair of a romantic fairytale, but it has the practical basics that might last a lifetime.




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Terri Steffes
3 years ago

This made me catch my breath, and get tingles down my spine. Beautifully written.

emman damian
3 years ago

I also want a best friend for life where I can share my life experiences and be at my best! I want someone who can support my dreams and aspirations.

Emily Fata
3 years ago

I love this perspective on the topic of falling in love. It feels so very honest.

3 years ago

Oh wow, I like your view point on this. Is it possible to combine both and be romantic and best friends?

At Lifestyle Crossroads
3 years ago

I also believe in holding own space and growing through life together! Falling in love is romantic but a strong relationship is rarely built only on it!

Lavern Moore
3 years ago

I love the whole idea of just committing to love each other in the moment without great traditional ideas. It gives you so much freedom.

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